Relationships God’s Way

Summary

Join host Kim D in a soul-enriching exploration as she delves into the intricacies of dating through the lens of faith and wisdom in this episode of “God Talk w/Kim D.”

Timestamps

0:00:01 Introduction to God Talk with Kim Dee

0:02:08 Characteristics to Consider in a Potential Partner

0:04:13 Dating as a Courtship and Seeking God’s Guidance

0:06:02 Discovering Interests and Values in a Relationship

0:08:08 Importance of Being Equally Yoked in Faith

0:09:53 Focusing on the Heart and Inner Qualities

0:10:52 Active Listening and Avoiding Self-Centered Conversations

0:11:41 The Importance of Coming Together with God

0:12:35 The Importance of Dating According to God’s Word

0:14:02 Sex and its Impact on Relationships

0:16:12 Learning from Past Mistakes and Paying Attention to Signs

0:22:10 Dating: Finding a Partner Aligned with God’s Will

0:23:10 Prayer for Guidance in Dating Decisions

Summary

Welcome to another insightful episode of “God Talk with Kim D.” Hosted by Kim D, a devoted Christian, this podcast delves into the profound intersection of faith, relationships, and life’s journey. In this episode, Kim explores the captivating realm of dating through the lens of divine wisdom.

Kim’s warm and engaging narration draws you in as she shares the pivotal importance of viewing dating as an intentional process, an interview with the potential to shape your future. Drawing from her own faith journey and Scriptural insights, Kim addresses the common misconceptions about dating and relationships. She emphasizes the significance of finding a partner whose characteristics resonate with God’s principles, ensuring a harmonious partnership that aligns with your spiritual journey.

Throughout the episode, Kim provides valuable advice on cultivating meaningful connections. She discusses the essence of active listening, asking thought-provoking questions, and seeking common ground. In her passionate and caring voice, she underscores the necessity of being equally yoked in faith, highlighting the pivotal role faith plays in building a strong foundation for lasting relationships.

Kim’s candid reflections on the pitfalls of rushing into physical intimacy illuminate the episode. She stresses that real love stems from understanding, respect, and shared values, not mere physical attraction. With anecdotes and heartfelt stories, she encourages listeners to embark on dating journeys grounded in God’s wisdom and guided by prayer.

As the episode draws to a close, Kim leads a heartfelt prayer, invoking God’s guidance for those seeking partners and offering blessings to both believers and seekers alike. “God Talk with Kim D” is a podcast that speaks directly to the heart, reminding us that the path to a fulfilling relationship is paved with faith, patience, and the desire to honor God’s plan.

Tune in to this illuminating episode to discover the transformative power of God’s guidance in the realm of relationships. Don’t forget to subscribe for more enlightening conversations that blend faith and everyday life. Stay blessed and connected with “God Talk with Kim D.”

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Hello, everyone, and welcome to God Talk with Kim Dee. This is my podcast of talking about the things that matter in regards to relationships, dating,

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and so forth and so on.

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In my last podcast, I talked about the introduction of relationships.

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So go back and listen to that and see and hear what the Lord has to say to you.

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As you know, I am a Christian and I love to talk about the things of God.

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And one of the most important factors in today's society of finding a mate is called dating.

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And actually in the Word of God, it really doesn't specifically use the word dating,

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but there's other scriptures that reference to when you're meeting your mate and the things

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that God will guide you through the Word of God of knowing how to pick your mate.

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And I think there's a lot of people that don't actually listen to the things that God is

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speaking on about dating to help you to find that mate.

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One thing about dating is that really you're just finding out about that person to see

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if that's the person that you want to spend your life with, that you want to come into

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partnership with, and that person is going to support you through the things of God and

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what God wants you to do and to live life.

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One thing about dating is that you need to learn about that person and basically you're just finding out

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what the characteristics of the person and if they really meet the standards

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of what God says about a relationship.

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And I'm not talking about we have to meet this perfect person because we don't live in a perfect world.

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We live in a world that is a fallen world and that's why God had to come to die for us

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so we can have fellowship and to be forgiven of our sins.

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So talking about dating, dating is just something as where you are really actually learning about that person

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and seeing if this is the person that you want to be with.

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The one thing that I would really recommend is that when you're talking to this person,

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ask questions about their interests. If they like to do adventurous things, do they like to go on

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mission trips? Do they like to read the Word all the time? Do they spend a lot of time with the

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Lord? What are the fun things? Because I think one thing that people think about dating and being in

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in a relationship, or a matter of fact,

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becoming a Christian, that being a Christian is very boring,

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and that is far from the truth.

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God just wants you to have a personal relationship with him,

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and he wants to give you life. He wants to bless you and to bless you abundantly.

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So in saying all of that, when you're dating somebody, you wanna make sure that you're dating somebody

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that doesn't, I'm sorry, that has hidden addictions,

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because later on when you get together with that person and there's signs that you need to look at,

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is that if this person gets upset real easily or they want you to actually do

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what they're calling you to do and there's so much of a disagreement,

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you can agree to disagree.

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You can agree on things that you may see something differently than that person.

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But that doesn't necessarily mean that that person is not for you.

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It's just that people gather information. That's why you develop an opinion,

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is because of the information that you have.

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And actually, if you wanna know something, the first thing that I would tell you to do

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is to actually go and seek out God.

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So talking about dating, Date people that you truly believe

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that are walking in the same likeness of what you like according to what God says.

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Dating is something as where people think that, well, if I date this person one time,

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then I really know that person. And no, dating is a courtship.

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You have to go through the process to learn the certain things about that person.

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I would really recommend spending as much time that you can in the Word of God and ask

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God what are the characteristics and what He wants you to do when you're dating somebody.

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One thing that I would actually recommend is that sitting down with that person and

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asking questions, you know, I'm not saying pull out your phone and you have all these

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questions and say hey man do you like steak? Well I don't or man I like to eat

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chicken but you know hey. Now I'm talking about things that matter in relationship,

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that you become husband and wife, how many children that you want, the way you

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want to live and you don't have to start off that with the first date just fill

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out the person and ask questions and find out what really sparks your

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interest about that person. Now for me when I go on a date I always look for

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how he responds and and how he pays attention to what I'm talking about as

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vice versa that I'm paying attention because you know I want to learn I really want to sit there and understand and see what this person is all about so.

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But when I'm there, sitting there talking with this person,

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I wanna know what makes this person laugh, What makes this person do what they do?

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What is it about God that you love so much about the Father?

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What is it that brought you into the realness that God is real?

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And for me, I am a very adventurous person. I like to learn new things.

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I like culture. I'm a very diversified person.

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I love different types of food. And I am a person that loves to laugh.

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I always want to laugh. I enjoy laughing. I enjoy having a great time. I enjoy doing things of that of this world that God

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has planted for us. I enjoy a lot of things and the one thing I want to make sure that when I.

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Get my mate is that he has the same interests that I do and he can be different for me too.

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He may not like eating a certain type of food and that's fine, but I want to make

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sure our common denominator is about God and that he values the principles about

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relationships. In the Word of God, it talks about unevenly yoked. If this person believes something totally different than what the Bible says and

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totally different about who God is, if they do not believe that he is the God

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of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, then let me tell you something people, you need to

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run. Don't get connected with people that aren't connected with God because I'm

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going to tell you something, you're going to have a hard road ahead of you and God

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doesn't want us to be in relationships that don't prosper us in the things of

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him. So I really encourage you to really pray when you meet this person that you

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go on a date and just talk about things, the current events, what is happening in

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this world today. You don't have to be so serious like, oh do you like to do this?

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No I don't like to do that. Do you want to go here? No I don't want to go there.

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No it should be a relaxed thing. When you're dating you need to become friends.

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For me, I want to marry my best friend. I want him to be the head of everything that God has called the man to be.

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I want him to do the role that God has his role to be, and then whatever my role is.

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When I date somebody, I want to, you know, I'm dating that person.

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I want to know what interests that he has. is a very important factor in a relationship.

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Because if they're not...

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Really into the things that God has, you know, shown them or their interest is

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somewhere that's not equated to what God wants us to actually live life on or

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life in, excuse me, then you need to shy away because just because the person and

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this is another thing that we do as women and as men, we always go by

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the appearance of that person. We do. You first need to learn about that person's

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heart and then the outer will come into focus with the inner and the outer. For,

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me, I am about chemistry and the chemistry of that person, of their laughter, how they live life, how they handle problems. What do they do first,

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when they have a problem? What did they actually do?

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Did they run to God and pray to God or do they run to other people?

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And I'm not saying not to go to people for wisdom or guidance.

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I'm talking more about when you get into a situation, what is the first thing do you do?

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Do you run to people or do you run to the Father, to God?

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So I look for all of those different attributes in men.

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I love a man, you know, men are beautiful. God created them beautiful in all races.

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I love to talk to men because they have a different perspective than we do as women

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because women think differently and men think differently.

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Like, men think logically, and women think from their heart.

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But God brings us together as a combination to do the work that he has called us to doing.

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When you go on a date, be a listener, listen to what they're saying and give them the opportunity

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to ask you questions. When somebody monopolizes the whole conversation, it's like, uh,

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and it's the way I say it's supposed to be, and this is how it's supposed to be. No,

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you need to listen and listen to what they're saying and listen to them if,

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they have a spiritual mind and listening to the things of God when they're speaking if they're talking so much about hey this is what you know about me

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me, me, me, me, me, run, run, run, run, run, run.

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Cause it's not about me. It's about us and about God coming together.

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And I know a lot of you out there probably go, what's wrong with this lady?

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She's over here talking about dating and this is how it's going to be.

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I'm trying to help you to know how to pick the right person and what to expect on dating.

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Dating is actually an interview. You're actually interviewing each other and finding out if you have,

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if I can use this terminology, the skill sets and you're meeting the job description.

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And what I mean by the job description is not as going to your job,

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but when I use that expression, it means that this person actually has the concept.

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And the love of God and goes by God's word and that's how they live life.

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So it's lining up to what the word of God says about what they're talking about with you.

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Dating is very important because sometimes men and women, they will date somebody and date them and date them

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and know that this is not the person for you.

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Let the person go so they can find the person that they're supposed to be with.

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We date because we were lonely, and that's the wrong thing to do.

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Don't date because you're lonely. Date because you want to be with the person

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that God has for you.

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Date because you're learning about the other things of this man and these other things of this woman.

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Don't date because you want to, because you're lonely and because of your insecurity

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and you're a person that wants to have sex all the time.

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Because once you start dating this person and you start having sexual relations with that person,

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You just killed the relationship.

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The sex is a gift that God gives to men and women to come together to show their love.

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It's his love that he's giving to the man and giving to the woman when they come together.

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But if you have sex while you're dating this person, right then and there,

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you pretty much killed the relationship.

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And I know people that have actually slept with that person because they wanted, you know, as they say,

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well, I wanted to try it out to make sure this is the person. It's not about that.

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If God has brought this relationship together, then you don't have to have sex with that person.

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God will tell you in your spirit that this is the person for you. He's going to give you the wisdom.

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That's the awesome thing about God is when you have a personal relationship

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with the Lord and you want to know anything and everything, go to the Father

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and he will show you. The Holy Bible is God's Word. God says heaven and earth

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will always remain, no heaven and earth, excuse me, heaven and earth will pass but

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my word will always remain. The Word of God is the Bible. It's our direction,

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instruction on how to do life. God will tell you how to pick a mate. God will

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tell you what the importance of a mate. And God will tell you how ministry is

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important to build the kingdom of God. It's all about God and how God wants you,

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to live life. Because God knows that there's gonna be things that are gonna

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happen that we're gonna go through trials and tribulations and God wants to

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make sure that when you start dating this person or you start being in a relationship with that person God doesn't want you to be in a relationship

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as where it's bounding meaning that is a dictation ship God wants you to be in

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the relationship because he's bringing you together because he wants you to

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build the kingdom of God with one another. Relationships and dating is very.

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Important. You have to pay attention to the things of God.

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So you that are non-believers, this may be like way over your head, like this is ridiculous what she's saying.

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No, it's actually not.

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If you want a good relationship, and you don't want to be going through the next divorce,

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because there's people that will divorce up to 10 times, or up to 4 times, or up to 3 times, or up to 2 times.

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And one lady had told me, well, the third one was the charm.

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I finally got it right.

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Well, how would it be that if you got it right the first time around,

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if you would have paid attention to the things of God and what he was directing you about dating

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and the importance about dating?

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The first time around when you're dating somebody, and as I said before, it's interviewing that person

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and finding out what that person is all about, learning about his behaviors.

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And let me tell you something, dating will show you signs if that person is not the right person

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or that person has issues.

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I hear so many stories about people saying, oh, he was acting like this,

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and I knew at the beginning, but he was so nice.

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And I just, you know, dismiss that. No, you can't dismiss things that you know

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that's going to hurt you in the future.

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You need to pay attention to signs.

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And you always be in prayer, asking God. Now there may be people that actually find their mate

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and they have this excitement inside and they're all excited about this person.

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Ask God.

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And then they get scared Cause they're like, I don't know if the enemy is tricking me.

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No, if you trust God, God will help you through, especially if it's his will for you.

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Dating is very, very, very important. It really truly is.

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It's a place where people can be at a common ground. common ground. It should be a safe haven. There's no commitment. You're just finding

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out about this person. Take out the time to really know this person.

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And then go back and pray about it and ask God, is this the person for me?

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And I'm telling you, God will tell you.

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Yes, he will. He will tell you. Now, you that don't believe in the Bible,

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I would really encourage you to read the book of John and have God really minister to you

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about becoming a Christian.

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And before the end of my podcast, I wanna pray with you that God will direct you

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and to show you how to live life.

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Because I'm here to tell you that God is a God that wants to see you succeed,

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in everything that he has for you.

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He's a loving God. I know there's things that happen in this world,

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but it's not because God is being mean and this is what's going on,

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things happen because we're in a fallen world.

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We're in a world that is not really following the things of God.

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There is people that are following God, but we are here to share the gospel,

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and to tell people how to live life.

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If you want to live life the way God has told you to live life,

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or if somebody has shared and said, God really placed it on my heart to pray for you.

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Then listen to that, because there's this overwhelming excitement about God

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when somebody is sharing about the gospel about Him and how great He is and He's a faithful God.

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And one thing I can tell you is that He is always on point and always on time. So today

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Change your thinking of what dating is all about. And to look at dating as a interview,

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that you're interviewing this person according to what the word of God says.

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Dating this person to find out more of this person's characteristics.

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Characteristics is the most importance of anything

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anything, because it shows people who God has created you to be.

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You know, when I hear people, you know, men and women say, oh, I want a godly woman and I want a godly man.

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And that's great, because godly is doing and trying to live the way God would call us to live according

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to what the word of God says.

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But for me, I want a man that has God's characteristics.

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Because I know that if he has God's characteristics, I know that he is going to do what is right,

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according to what God says.

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And the godly comes with that hand in hand. Because the one thing, and I'm speaking to you right now, women, God says to the man.

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Husbands, love your wives as Christ loves the church. Women, find a man that loves God more

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than he loves you because he's going to take care of you the way God has called him to take care of

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So, I hope today you learned a lot about dating and, and I'm always going to talk about what God places on my heart to talk about.

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And to remember that dating is learning about that person's characteristics, understanding about that person's characteristics,

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and knowing if this is the person that God has for you.

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If you really enjoy my podcast, God Talk with Kim D, then subscribe, look below and subscribe.

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And if you have comments or you have questions, or you have questions, you can always email me

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at contact at Proverbs.

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31women.com. I would like to end with a prayer and to pray for those who don't know Christ and

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to pray for those who do. Heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus Christ, the most high God,

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the everlasting God, the God that is the Father of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, I pray for those

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who don't know you, Lord, and that don't really understand about dating, but that this would help

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them to knowing, I pray that you would touch their hearts, Lord Jesus, and that

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you would speak to them in a mighty way. Lord, I pray for those that do know you,

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God, and that they would take these principles that I spoke about, about

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dating, and to look at it as a interview and getting to know that person, and that

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they would call out your name, God, and that they would seek you out, and that

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they will know that you are the God that is the faithful God and that will give

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them wisdom of making the right decision with their mates. Today I hope that God

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continues to bless you in a mighty way. I pray that you have been blessed by this

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podcast and that I will see you again and we will have another topic with God

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