Courtships God’s Way

Welcome to God Talk with Kim D, a podcast for Christian singles as well as

non-believers that are looking for

a meaningful relationship that will lead to marriage.

I'm Kim D and welcome again. Today's topic is going to be on courtship.

In my last episode, I talked about dating and the important points and the basic things about dating.

And I just wanted to reiterate some things that I went over in the last episode.

When you're dating, you're actually interviewing that person and finding out about that person's characteristics.

You're finding out about their likes, about their relationship with God, what they think

about the current events that are happening in today's society, and basically finding

out about their behaviors because you don't want to be with somebody that flips in a New

York minute.

So I'm here to help you to find and to navigate to the right person that God has for you.

Dating is a very important aspect of relationship because that is actually the first point and,

the beginning.

Is when you're going to take it a little bit further and you're romantically involved with this person

that you both have decided that you want to spend the rest of your life together.

So you're ending up in the things of God and doing what God has called you to doing.

And courtship is a commitment. It's not like dating. Dating in the world is very casual.

You know, people meet up, they end up having sex, they end up doing whatever they want to do,

and that's not dating.

Dating is finding out about that person to make sure that this is the person

that's supposed to be in your life.

That's why the relationships today are just off the chain. Like, no one even really goes back to the basic principles

of what the Holy Bible, what God says about relationships.

Wouldn't it be nice?

If every day you would pray to God and say, Lord, you know, this is my heart desire is to be in a relationship.

Send me the right man, send me the right woman that he and I can get together.

She and I can get together and preach the gospel and do the things that you

have called us to doing. With a courtship, as I said before, is a commitment.

And that's when you decide to marry this person. and you decide how many kids you want,

you decide what ministry God has for you, you decide all the things that what the Bible tells you.

If people would really listen to what the Holy Spirit says about relationships,

I think we would have less problems with family

because you have a lot of broken families because it started with the man and the woman,

being together and not really seeking out who their partner should have been.

In courtship, I would really suggest, and I just wanted to talk about one of the books

in the Bible called the Song of Songs.

And it's Solomon, the king, that is talking about his feelings for this woman that he's going after.

He was going after this woman and they were courting each other.

And they both were going back and forth about their feelings of how they felt for one another

to the point where it went to the place of marriage.

And the book is so beautiful because it's very...

About love, it has God in it, it talks about how the woman felt about her partner and it talks about him, how he felt about his bride and I really would

suggest and really encourage you to read that so you can learn about what

courtship is. Courtship is not something as where a lot of people think that, oh

I'm gonna be marrying Tom so guess what I can start sleeping with him because

eventually we're going to be married and this is how it's going to be. No, wrong answer.

Courtship is not for that. Courtship is to be brought together as a commitment and to,

go forward for the marriage. Marriage is a very important and very important to God.

Bringing two people together. People don't honor the bedroom and you need to,

because you are, think about this, think about you want to be surprised on

Christmas and you have this beautiful box that is just with the beautiful ribbon, the wrapping and you're just like oh I'm so excited I can't wait till I

I open up this box, but you open it up before Christmas.

And then when Christmas comes, you're not excited because you already opened up that present, opened up that gift.

Well, that's how sex and relationship, when you have sex before marriage.

You already opened up the gift. And God wants you to have that gift on your wedding day

for you and that man, or you and that woman.

To come together as one to consummate the marriage. God really, you know, I talk to a lot of people

and a lot of women feel deprived,

like, I can't, you know, I desire to be with somebody. Girl, listen, everybody desires to be

with somebody. But if you want it to be blessed and honored by God, then go by what God says.

One thing I can honestly say is that everybody thinks that God doesn't want you to be in a

relationship or God doesn't want you to be intimate with that person. And there's a difference between

sex and a difference about lovemaking. Sex is getting you, you're getting off on something,

and lovemaking is that you are giving the pleasure to both parties. That man and that woman that you

have given each other that gift that God wants you to embrace in that and God wants you to enjoy it.

God created lovemaking. God created that.

Satan did not, and the devil will come in and try to destroy that, and tell you,

and whisper things, oh, go ahead and have sex.

God don't want you to have sex, because God wants to deprive you.

Just like, let's go back to the beginning of time with Adam and Eve.

Adam had everything. God told him you can do anything that you want to do,

but don't take the fruit off that tree.

God gave him, he, I mean, paradise. Can you imagine going through the beautiful garden,

seeing the beauty of God's creation, and enjoying what God has given you?

And then God creates a woman that he took a rib out of Adam to create that woman for him.

And then you have Adam and Eve, and they're enjoying each other,

and they're doing everything. But here comes Satan, the devil,

the liar, the destroyer, the one that wants to lie. He's a counterfeit.

Everything that God says that is good, he will take it and make it ugly. Just like with music. Music was from God, not from Satan.

The reason why Satan is so involved in music today because he was God's main person to do the praise and worship when he was in

heaven before he got kicked out. Then going back to Adam and Eve saying this, here comes Satan and he lies to them and

says, oh you know what if you eat that fruit.

Guess what the reason why God don't want you to know that fruit is because then you will be like him and you will know things. So he was

enticing them. So he didn't get to Adam but he got to Eve and then they went

ahead and ate the fruit. So I'm here to tell you wait on God for your mate. Let

him show you who the person that you're supposed to be with and save yourself to

give that gift to that man or to that woman. That is a gift that God has given

between man and between woman. And it's a beautiful thing. Go back and read in the

Bible. Read the songs of songs. Read it and see what God will minister and speak

to you, say, Holy Spirit, I heard Kim Dee speak about this. Let God show you.

I really encourage all of you to really read your word and to really have God give you guidance

because really the word of God is instruction

and direction, excuse me, and how to do life.

God does not want to deprive you from anything. He wants to give everything to you

but according to how he wants to give it to you because he knows that we're in a fallen world

and he wants to make sure that what he gives to you, that you know that it was given to you by him and him alone.

Now you'll have the devil come to you and tell you, hey, you know what?

You need to go marry Bob over here because you know, Bob is gonna give you this,

this and this and that.

Wrong answer.

Seek out the Lord even to the point where you have to fast and ask God,

is this the person that you have for me?

And then, if Bob tells you, you know, Grace, I wanna experience, you know,

having relations with you, let's have sex together so we know if we are compatible together.

And they'll start smooth talking and saying, you know what, God created this, this is okay.

And if you feel bad about it, just go back and repent and God will forgive you.

It doesn't work that way. God does forgive us when we do repent,

but we have to have a heart of repentance.

We don't sin just because the next day we could go to God and say, hey God, you know, forgive me for doing that.

And then we go back and we continue to keep doing it again and again and again.

That's not what.

Relationships is all about. It is about God and basing in the things that God has for you,

and having that relationship that God says that is good. Marriage is good. Love is beautiful.

God created it. Everything that has been created on this earth, it came from God.

Whatever it turns into bad is because of the devil, because of what he has done

and what he is trying to do to destroy families and marriages today. Take a good

look everyone. Look around you. Look what's going on and what is happening in

our world today. If you don't see that we're in the last days, I don't know what

to tell you, but I'm telling you right now.

That God has a person for you.

And God wants you to know the truth about what relationships are about.

The biblical principles, what he says about relationships, not what man says, but what God says.

God will download it to you.

I know a lot of people think that, well, you know, you know, God's, he's okay with what I'm doing.

And I'm looking at them like, well, if you accepted him as your Lord and savior and you

have committed to him, no, it's not okay.

God will tell you what is right and what's wrong.

And you know what, and another thing, when people say, well, I felt this in my spirit. What did you feel?

Ask God because you're dealing with your flesh as well as the spiritual man.

Amen. I'm telling you, trust God and wait on the Lord to tell you what relationship is supposed to be.

That's why so many people are in these bad relationships and abusive relationships because,

at the first time around when they were dating this person, this person swept them off their

feet, told them everything that they wanted to hear, but there were signs.

But you ignored them because you like the treatment. You like the fact that this man bought you a Louis Vuitton handbag.

Answer. You got to trust God in showing you who the person you're supposed to be with.

Because the enemy will counterfeit everything about God. But if you seek the Lord and ask him,

he will show you and it will bring peace to your spirit man.

You will know without a shadow of doubt, this is what the Lord has said.

This is what God has told me to doing.

Women and men of God, Go back and reevaluate the person that you are in relations with right now.

If you're in that phase of deity or you're in that courtship, please seek out the Lord

and ask God, is this the person that you should be with?

Now you that are not believers, but you have an ideal about God or you have not accepted

God as your Lord and Savior, but you want to, I would really encourage you to really

seek out the Lord and ask Him.

Because God, one thing I can tell you about the Lord, He is a faithful God.

And He will let you know what truths are.

But there's a flesh that is us, man, humankind, that we want to do everything according to

how we want to do everything. So in courtship, you're courting that person.

You're courting them to the next level, to the next place that God has you to go

to with that person. Listen to what the Holy Spirit tells you.

And to really listen. I believe and I feel very strongly that people rush into things.

We are in a society that is very impatient.

We want everything microwaved.

30 seconds, here we go. Fast foods, go ahead. We want this. This is how we want this relationship.

I wanna marry this person.

I wanna have kids with this person. I wanna live with this person.

And I don't care if this person has this problem.

You better care because guess what? It's gonna affect your life.

And then you're gonna turn around and say, why did God let me marry that person?

Why did God doesn't stop this?

Let me tell you something.

God did try to stop you. The one thing that God will not do is go against your will.

We have a will to do right or to do wrong.

There is so many times that God has spoken to me about things and sometimes I'm right on

and sometimes I miss it.

And then I wanna go back and I want God to clean up the mess.

When it wasn't his fault at all, God always gives each and every one of us on this planet.

An opportunity to make decisions,

whether they're his decisions or if they're our decisions.

God will put a roadblock, but it won't be a roadblock that will stop you,

but it's a roadblock that you can see because God can't make you do what he wants you to do.

I remember there's a woman that was talking to me and she's a Christian woman.

I haven't talked to her for a long time.

And we were talking about relationships.

And she was telling me that one of the gentlemen that she was dating, she had relations with him.

And this man's a Christian and she was a Christian. And she said to me, and I found this really odd,

it like blew me away, like I had to step back and say, wait a minute, you and I are talking about God, right?

I'm talking about the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, the true God of Israel.

So she said to me that, you know, I need to have sex. I need it and I'm looking at her like and I'm just like okay.

Not okay that it's okay for her to do that, but I'm like, okay, I'm hearing you. And she said,

because God knows that that's what I need. And I'm thinking to myself, God does not give us.

The approval to have sex outside of marriage. And that is if you're a Christian.

Now, those that don't know the Lord, you're doing whatever you want to do.

But once you become a Christian and you come into God's kingdom, then there's a place where,

you will have to go by what God is telling you to do.

You're signing up saying, you know what, Lord, I want to follow you.

Well then there's things that you're going to have to follow just like the disciples.

They had to leave their families and they made decisions to follow God. There wasn't time to

say, well you know what Lord let me let me go over here and pray about this. It was like

you're a friend of the master. Yes, pick up your stuff and walk with me and that's what they did.

So I'm here to tell you to listen to the things of God and to trust Him in everything that you do. And it's very important, it's a compassion for me to,

get this out to people about relationships because God was speaking to me three years ago and said, Kim I need you to go back to the biblical

principles about what relationships and what marriage is all about. And he said,

I need you to tell people that this is how it's supposed to be. You're supposed

to honor God with your relationships. You honor God in the things that you do. You,

honor God and you go and you share the gospel with everybody else. And this idea

that God doesn't want you to have fun, that's not the truth.

I have so much fun as a Christian and I live life as God has called me to live life.

And I would not take my best day and trade it for my worst day as a Christian

to go back into the world and do the things that the world is doing

because we are living in a world that doesn't care anymore.

And we as the body of Christ, We need to come together and start doing life

the way God has called it.

And the most important thing that's being attacked today is family, marriages.

Satan wants to divide the family and he wants to destroy the family

because we are stronger as a unit, as in unity.

So my compassion and my assignment is to tell people about relationships and about marriage

and what God has called it to be

and for you to trust him in everything that you do.

You gotta trust him. Go back and read the word.

I guarantee you, if you say, Lord, I really wanna know about you,

I wanna know what you're about and show me, God will show you.

It's not a dictationship, it's not a slavery mentality, sorry, it's about God showing you the truth about Him.

And about what relationships are all about. So today, I hope you learned about courtship.

Courtship is totally different from dating. Courtship is more serious.

Courtship is about a romantic relationship.

That you are going toward marriage and what God called it to being.

As with dating, you're being introduced to that person and you're learning about that person

and about his and her behaviors.

And I'm gonna tell you something, one thing that you all should learn

is you need to find out about people's behaviors

because that's where the problems start lying, is the behaviors of people.

So I enjoyed our talk today and what God was having me to share with all of you.

And I would like to end with a prayer,

to minister to all of you and to ask you for those who don't know God to come into knowing the Lord.

So Heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus, I pray for those who don't know you.

And I pray that this message has really ministered to them about who you are

and the importance of courtship.

And those who have been on the back burner that have been living a carnal life,

I pray that, Lord, you would bring them back into the relationship with you.

I pray that, Lord Jesus, that these people would know who you are as the Lord and Savior,

and that they would know that you are a good God and a loving God.

I want you all to know that God loves you.

Check us out on Proverbs31women.com. That is a Christian dating website

and it's a community to bring men and women together

to learn about the biblical principles.

If you wanna find your mate, check it out.